EMPATHY

EMPATHY  

We’re all born happy and we’re all born sad. Seldom it is that people talk ‘sad’. Everything and everyone needs happy, if not- something MUST be wrong. We are plague with not wanting to be uncomfortable, feeling awkward or shameful. There were many ‘fixers’ around me when Tommy passed. But there were also hundreds of people that were able to hold me in silence. Brene Brown writes “The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It's our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.” I wish less people would fear the dark. Then, there will be more joy to be had for anyone. More space for the crappy bullshit would equal less depression, numbness, addiction. Extended room for the ugly would mean more kindness, thoughtfulness and yes, EMPATHY.Im sure of it. And I get it, there is a space and a time for everything. You need to feel safe. But I’ve been in situation where it’s was appealing to skip over the fact that Tommy, my son, my blood had tragically passed. When I boldly but quickly tell people about Tommy, have been surprise to hear people's own stories with death right on the spot. It’s been enlightening.